It’s one of the biggest concerns of LGBT+ individuals, especially youth. When will I tell them? How will I tell them?
There is so much pressure from both society and the media to immediately tell everyone that you aren’t straight or cis, as soon as you realize that you aren’t. However, contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to tell anyone if you don’t want to!
Coming out is a personal choice. For most, it’s a journey of accepting yourself, which can be thwarted if those close to you react negatively. People seem to be adamant on going out of their comfort zones and telling everyone they know that they’re different. This can have adverse effects on your social life, which I’m sure plenty of you already know by now.
The point I’m trying to make is that you don’t owe it to anyone to come out. Giving others such personal information is nerve-wracking and, at times can even be dangerous.
So what if your friends and acquaintances don’t know? So what if your relatives only see the closeted side of you? It shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter who you love or what gender you identify as. People shouldn’t have to lose sleep at night, counting the number of ways people will react when they receive the news.
Before you start worrying about coming out to your lab partner, your second cousin, and that acquaintance you only talk to in third period, consider this: you don’t have to unless you really want to tell them. As I said before, you don’t owe it to them, and you certainly aren’t obligated to tell anyone. It can stay a secret if you want it to.